I don’t think there is a right and wrong answer to this post. Personally, I think I’d give it my best attempt at bring them to the surface or a near as possible, doing as much deco as physically possible. I think it would be the only way I could sleep at night, knowing I did as much as I could of in that situation. It would take a good deal of effort, but it should be manageable. The way I see it, the main risk to you would be risk of an uncontrolled ascent. As for missing deco yourself, it’s a hard one to call to be honest. It really depends on how much we are talking about if the shit had really hit the fan…. A bit of a type 1 in that situation would be worth it if it meant my buddy was ok.
Situations like these are where good top side cover / support are critical. If you had support divers / top cover, you can just bring the diver up to meet the first support diver and they can bring them the rest of the way.
I think bring someone up the shot would be the ideal choice if you were close enough. A harder situation would be if you are 50 m or more away from the shot, do you bring them back to the shot or go with them to the surface. Back at the shot, you would have other divers to help on the ascent / rescue. A free ascent would mean you are doing the rescue on your own mid-water….
If you just let someone fly from the bottom, they will likely be dead on the surface from either a burst lung / drowning. If they get to the surface alive, being inverted on the surface with no regulator for a few minutes until the boat sees them will mean they will drown.
If we are talking about something like an oxtox / Inner ear bend, then I think shooting them directly to the surface is wrong. It is likely they will come around eventually on the ascent and will just need some help coming to the surface on their own.